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Tuesday, October 10, 2017

Defending the home

A wise woman chooses the known and defends her home over the dubious promise of the unknown and the unlikely:
I’ve earned those rewards. There is no way I want to jeopardize where I end up and how I live because I didn’t have the courage or willingness to pursue my marriage and family with integrity now. Before the hurricanes and menopausal tornadoes.

See, to be blunt, we don’t fare well in the re-marriage market as only 25% of women who are divorced in their 30’s-40’s actually remarry. Men will generally marry at a rate closer to 50% but, even then, they aren’t looking at our Match.Com profiles. They tend to marry women far younger than themselves the second time and, well, that rather gives a raspberry to both our aging marketability and our chances at second time marital bliss.

Seriously. 25%.  I don’t like those odds.

Have you seen the dating market for women our age? Have you seen the dudes interested in us? How many of those men would want a ready-made family and a whole set of busted up luggage? How many of those men would you want around your 14-year-old daughter or raising your little boys?

Hollywood says women can do anything and have anything no matter what they look like or what mess they’ve made of their lives. But Hollywood also uses CGI to make dead people talk so we know they’re a bunch of liars anyway.

When it all boils down and we are left with the goop in the bottom of the pain, it seems wiser to just hang on to the 41% chance that I get to be one of the women who can hold on to her husband and intact family for the long haul. At least as much as it is in my power to do so.
One seldom sees a statistics-based anti-divorce article from women, so it is good to see that there are some women who are beginning to embrace reality and acknowledge that muddling through the ups and downs of marriage with determination is a much preferable option to either you-go-girl divorce or the eat-pray-love-lesbian cycle.

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67 Comments:

Anonymous Verita October 10, 2017 5:20 AM  

Nothing personal, but why is a guy who named himself after a character from an anime porn video game giving advice on women? (Here's where Voxie got "Supreme Dark Lord" from):

http://alicesoft.wikia.com/wiki/Supreme_Dark_Lord

It's pretty obvious the only experience with women he has is in digital format, lol

Anonymous 5343 Kinds of Deplorable October 10, 2017 5:25 AM  

I have been citing these statistics to women for a couple of years, and the usual response I get to pointing out that older women only remarry at a 25% rate is that they have no interest in remarrying because they found marriage to be a bad experience, and are "more fulfilled" on their own.

Which doesn't explain why they're still out there dating and failing, of course, but perhaps SJWs are not the only ones who double down ...

Anonymous Looking Glass October 10, 2017 5:28 AM  

"I know I want to reap the rewards of that investment.

I’ve earned those rewards. There is no way I want to jeopardize where I end up and how I live because I didn’t have the courage or willingness to pursue my marriage and family with integrity now. Before the hurricanes and menopausal tornadoes."

That's some properly placed Value. She did the work and deserves the reward for her work. (Relationships are definitely work.) She honors her Husband, Lord and family when she does.

As to the poop that showed up, either you're paid way too much or you're a foot too short for this ride.

Blogger Roger Hill October 10, 2017 5:45 AM  

@2
"Which doesn't explain why they're still out there dating and failing, of course, but perhaps SJWs are not the only ones who double down ..."

If I had a dollar for all those women I know who act the way you describe, then I could afford a pretty nice vacation.

One minute they are complaining about "ALL" men, saying they are liars, or hypocrites, or cheaters, or lazy, or fill in the blank. Then they act generally horrified when a guy they met on the 'Chat Line" or computer doesn't call them back after the first 'get together'.

My wife's friend fits well into this category. She dumped her husband because he was childish (according to her, which means nothing in my book) and spends countless hours bitching about men in general. And yet she seems to spend every other spare minute pining for a man and a relationship. Any man who gets hooked up with her has got to be a loser to begin with... which is kind of funny because it will only confirm her criticism of 'all men'. She will be right back on the same old cycle,
headed no where.

Blogger weka October 10, 2017 5:57 AM  

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Blogger James Dixon October 10, 2017 6:04 AM  

> ...and acknowledge that muddling through the ups and downs of marriage with determination is a much preferable option...

Why is it even a question? What part of "you gave your word" is lost on these people?

Blogger Lovekraft October 10, 2017 6:05 AM  

What she omits is telling. She disparages the 'bottom feeder' men who would be attracted to her, while ignoring the fact that there are many who would take her and her charges on, with conditions.

It is list last part that feminism has made into some type of Handmaid's Tale nightmare.

But without conditions, the man wouldn't be interested.

I think these women has a long way to go still.

Blogger weka October 10, 2017 6:05 AM  

The article goes on... To point out to women that they destroy the house one shot test at a time, disrespecting their husbands with carefully worded prayer requests.

It would be far better to teach women that they will score their best mate early. Let their sisters spend years on the career hamster wheel. They can build a house, or in their foolishness tear it down.

Anonymous basementhomebrewer October 10, 2017 6:33 AM  

When the first post is poop and it's not even a subject that poop would normally appear on? I am guessing the butt hurt over Alt-hero is getting to extreme levels.

Blogger JACIII October 10, 2017 6:46 AM  

James Dixon wrote:> ...and acknowledge that muddling through the ups and downs of marriage with determination is a much preferable option...

Why is it even a question? What part of "you gave your word" is lost on these people?


Because women lie. And solipsism. It's the go to position.
Honesty is a lot harder for a woman than for a man. Dishonesty is like a big universal fix-everything wrench in their toolbox screaming, "USE ME"!

The divorce rate has more to do with unrealistic expectations of an extended relationship than "original lie", though. Women are taught to expect a constant burning romance from day one; no matter how fat or crabby they might become, and no matter how bald and broken down their old man might become.
There are no wise grandmothers advising young girls how to get through life successfully anymore.

Blogger Akulkis October 10, 2017 6:47 AM  

@1

You're new here, aren't you.

Anonymous Man of the Atom October 10, 2017 6:50 AM  

Akulkis wrote:@1

You're new here, aren't you.


... and leaving its droppings in other threads as well. So sad.

Blogger Akulkis October 10, 2017 6:54 AM  

@James Dixon

Because modern women have not the slightest clue what honor is or means, let alone possessing even an iota of it.

Blogger Stilicho October 10, 2017 6:59 AM  

Is the troll inspired by Alt Hero or SJWADD? The only way to be sure is to let the good Colonel crucify it while the Kurgan reads its entrails.

Blogger Michael Maier October 10, 2017 7:18 AM  

Seeing firsthand the ways women will gladly destroy their own families has made me really damned cynical about trying to make my own.

Women like this author give one a little hope... but it is just a little.

Blogger weka October 10, 2017 7:24 AM  

@Michael. Such women exist. They are hard to find, choosy, and once we'd, loyal.

If glasshoppa is able he will see such and be worthy.

Blogger weka October 10, 2017 7:25 AM  

Wed. Bloody phone

Anonymous SomeTechAnonFag October 10, 2017 7:26 AM  

@14 We need a trifecta of triggering. 2 is incomplete.

Blogger Duke Norfolk October 10, 2017 7:28 AM  

She's hits the target spot on.

"Every day, systematically destroying their homes, one snark, one bitterness, one resentment at a time the foundation crumbles until there is nothing left to preserve. Nothing left to fight for or hold on to."

Yep. The world has taught them that they are owed their dreams, and if those dreams don't materialize by God someone's got to pay!

She better keep her head down, 'cause the feminists will be marching up her street with pitchforks. They HATE her honesty.

Blogger Duke Norfolk October 10, 2017 7:33 AM  

Either she just hasn't popped up on the SJW radar, or she must get pelted with hateful "poop" at her blog.

She may regret getting linked at VP. :-)

Blogger ZhukovG October 10, 2017 7:34 AM  

Little girls are fed too much 'Disney Princess' and not enough 'Father Knows Best'.

Blogger en_forcer October 10, 2017 7:58 AM  

So my chances are 50% as an older fella to get hitched again? With a younger woman? I like this article.

Blogger centexguy October 10, 2017 7:59 AM  

I checked out this lady's blog and she links to the Men of the West blog in another post. I don't think she's afraid of the SJWs.

Blogger YIH October 10, 2017 8:07 AM  

basementhomebrewer wrote:When the first post is poop and it's not even a subject that poop would normally appear on? I am guessing the butt hurt over Alt-hero is getting to extreme levels.
Even poop isn't as ridiculous as that. Enjoy your hentai loser, it's the closest thing you'll ever have to the real thing.

Anonymous Didas Kalos October 10, 2017 8:15 AM  

@ Roger Hill: if you value your marriage please keep your wife's friend as far away as possible.

Anonymous kfg October 10, 2017 8:18 AM  

"One seldom sees a statistics-based anti-divorce article from women . . ."

It lays out their motivation too bare.

Blogger Johnny October 10, 2017 8:37 AM  

It seems like women like men better in their absence than in their presence. When they are hooked up they lament the difficulties and when they separate they remember the benefits.

As an older guy I know for sure that there are a lot of older ladies that for one reason or another would like to be hooked up with a man. Too many of them for it to turn out well for them as a group.

And Hollywood? Endless pandering mixed with wishful thinking. Whatever else is going on our society has become dysfunctional in a lot of ways.

Blogger WynnLloyd October 10, 2017 8:49 AM  

Good point.

Blogger Doom October 10, 2017 8:52 AM  

This all was just on my mind. An anomaly spoke through shadows. I replied in like. It's not as if they don't know. Some bet beyond their depth, others decide the short run gain is preferred. Summed up, if it was her choice it isn't my problem.

Didas Kalos + a dozen @ Roger
Shrews, witches, run in packs and share their poison. Step on that toad before you can't.

Blogger WynnLloyd October 10, 2017 8:57 AM  

Ever since the red pill the faults of women have been gradually revealed.

For men one of the worst things we can do is throw away our post-wall wives, who gave us their youth and beauty. If a woman gives you the flower of her youth you can't discard her when she loses her beauty. That's just as bad as "Eat, Pray, Love" nonsense.

But I'm guessing the number of middle aged men abandoning their loyal wives is actually fairly low. Probably much, much lower than the reverse. I don't know the stats, though.

How can this era be more "advanced" than that of our ancestors when we have managed to screw up the most fundamental facets of life? So we have smartphones, but can't produce stable marriages. Crazy.

Anonymous Sam the Man October 10, 2017 9:07 AM  

Michael Maier:

I read some more of her blog and I would point out the following:

She is a Christian. I think that keeps her on the "straight and narrow".

I have noted as a mid 50s guy that the marriages where the female half is a Christian seem to have a traditional set up. Those where the chicks are secular, lots of female rebellion and marriage crashing. By secular many are nominally religious, but they are simply looking for good stuff to flow from heaven with no restraint on their own behavior.

In the modern world, form what I see, many of the old time main stream Christian churches are essentially in rebellion. So you have to look very carefully at the women to see if the philosophy as really penetrated or if they are just Christian for goodies alone. But if they do apply traditional standards to themselves, which will be evident when dating. If they be willing to sign up to their oath being "love honor and obey" publically, then likely they are a good bet.

I wonder if that is why a lot of guys seem to like the eastern European women, because they seem to have held on to traditional catholic ideal more than the western European or southern European.


Blogger Mr.MantraMan October 10, 2017 9:13 AM  

WAG, the wailing has just begun, on a 1-10 scale we are at 4 maybe but headed for 11.

Blogger dc.sunsets October 10, 2017 9:20 AM  

Our whole society is based on consumerism's Maxim: "Better & Faster is Just Around the Next Corner, so be ready for trade-up."

Add 50 years of telling the herd-people that casual sex (by definition, the separation of physical and emotional intimacy) is fine, and that one can habituate to it for a decade or two, but then by magic, settle down and Live Happily Ever After, is not just a Hollywood trope....

Why are we surprised by anything now?

Two leading causes of premature death: obesity and loneliness. Humans are social creatures, and most of us navigate life's ups and downs far better in a trusted partnership. Sadly, casual-sex consumer culture creates perpetual adolescents who have no honor and can't be trusted...for the rest of their lives.

Everything we do becomes a part of us. Just as a man gets stronger by lifting weight, people get weaker by indulging in vice, and the resulting weakness cannot be undone. People in Western Civilization used to know this, and there was at least some effort to leverage honor and integrity as mechanisms to reduce the number of irrevocable errors we (and our kids) made on the way to a full adulthood characterized by restraint.

Blogger Johnny October 10, 2017 9:37 AM  

dc.sunsets wrote:Two leading causes of premature death: obesity and loneliness.

Obesity is part of it, but diet in general, and I suspect it is the leading cause of death because the collateral damage doesn't get documented as diet caused. Almost all heart issues is diet related along with the a significant amount of the autoimmune diseases, diabetes and rheumatoid arthritis being the most prominent. Hey, read the book, The China Study.

The lethal dose is old age and bad diet combined.

Blogger James Dixon October 10, 2017 9:40 AM  

> You're new here, aren't you.

The class of troll has really gone down in recent years. Probably the growing popularity. It used to be the trolls had to work to find this site.

Blogger Dexter October 10, 2017 9:41 AM  

When local bulletin board women discuss the remarriage stats, invariably they say it's because "needy men want someone to take care of them" whereas they are strong independent women who don't need no man and wouldn't want the onerous work of remarriage if they got divorced.

Blogger Johnny October 10, 2017 9:54 AM  

@33 dc.sunsets

Hard to promote moral values when people can outrun their reputation. It used to be that most people were born and died in the same region and with the same basic population. Now among societies better educated classes that is unusual, and easy transportation has broken up most neighborhoods.

If we are to have a substitute in an industrial society, it would have to be a strong and enforced ideology. I have no use for Islam, not a backer, but perhaps it is in our future. In Russia and in Poland there is, apparently, an effort to bring religion back as a force. But of course if it is implemented by government it will always be a weak sister to government.

Blogger Johnny October 10, 2017 10:01 AM  

Dexter wrote:When local bulletin board women discuss the remarriage stats, invariably they say it's because "needy men want someone to take care of them" whereas they are strong independent women who don't need no man and wouldn't want the onerous work of remarriage if they got divorced.
Something I have noticed about feminism as implemented by the majority is that so far it has not taken on any social responsibility. Despite claiming to want to be equal partners in power at the least, women have yet to develop any sense that their behavior is part of what makes society the way it is. Society is still implicitly assumed to be masculine, still produced by somebody else, and they are still passengers in the ship of life, making the best of their subordinate role.

Blogger JACIII October 10, 2017 10:05 AM  

Michael Maier wrote:Seeing firsthand the ways women will gladly destroy their own families has made me really damned cynical about trying to make my own.

Women like this author give one a little hope... but it is just a little.


They instinctively do these things. They must be taught to not do them by someone. Young women have not been taught to fight the urge to disrespect their husband.
Part of the appeal of an alpha to them is they anticipate he will reign them in freeing them from the burden of having to exert any self control. The good kind are out there, but they are hard to find.

Often a woman will figure out she can get ahead of the others by simply taking advantage of that mistake by the majority of modern females. The smart ones are out there stabbing their hateful sisters in the back with much glee.

Anonymous heidi October 10, 2017 10:09 AM  

NIce.

Anonymous Jordi October 10, 2017 10:09 AM  

@Michael Maier : 15

The only way to win is to play. Ho can you defend the West and its family values without trying to build a family by yourself. We'll reluctantmy accept exceptiosn for catholic priests, but for every other man, trnasmitting our inheritance means transmit it to your descendants.

Mariage is risky, but there is no winning without trying

Blogger James Dixon October 10, 2017 10:14 AM  

> I have no use for Islam, not a backer, but perhaps it is in our future.

Not hardly.

Blogger James Dixon October 10, 2017 10:17 AM  

> Because women lie. And solipsism. ... Honesty is a lot harder for a woman than for a man
> Because modern women have not the slightest clue what honor is or means, let alone possessing even an iota of it.

Point taken, though it seems to be almost as bad amongst the men anymore.

Blogger Cail Corishev October 10, 2017 10:19 AM  

I have no use for Islam, not a backer, but perhaps it is in our future.

- Islam
- a future
Choose one.

Blogger S1AL October 10, 2017 10:32 AM  

@Cail -

If only we had a science fiction analog for a society of locusts that absorbs the knowledge of every civilization it conquers, but progresses no further...

Blogger Johnny October 10, 2017 10:32 AM  

Cail Corishev wrote:I have no use for Islam, not a backer, but perhaps it is in our future.

- Islam

- a future

Choose one.


Hey, look on the bright side. It will only set things back a thousand years. Not so bad if you think in geologic time.

Blogger William Warren October 10, 2017 10:39 AM  

Being a Christian isn't enough to keep a female on the straight and narrow. You absolutely MUST rule the household or they WILL succumb to their internal base natures.

Blogger Revelation Means Hope October 10, 2017 10:40 AM  

most women will see the 25% and believe that they will be the lucky 1 of 4.
They won't consider that many of the 1 in 4 settled for a lower quality man than the one they just divorced from.
Their thoughts (or rather, since most women don't really think their feelings) are solipsistic, they are truly not numbers driven, and they will engage in magical thinking.

Women who are still single or are already divorced will never, NEVER share with other women how lonely they are, how desperate, how depressed, or any other negative thing while they are hanging out in their little groups of friends. Instinctively, they know to reveal any weakness to another woman will put them at a disadvantage and so they proclaim how happy they are to be "free" and are living the independent life.

Only the red pilled are able to penetrate the lies and see beneath the facade.

Anonymous BBGKB October 10, 2017 11:01 AM  

One seldom sees a statistics-based anti-divorce article from women

The first gay divorce law firm opened the week after the Supremes ruled. Lot of gays are going to realize what they had before was full pre nuptial agreements.

If I had a dollar for all those women I know who act the way you describe, then I could afford a pretty nice vacation.

You should be able to get yourself a mail order bride for that much.

Hard to promote moral values when people can outrun their reputation

If you really wanted to end abortion give feminists their wish and make it like guns, they have to register the abortion so any good man can check before he gets married to have the choice to avoid such a woman

Anonymous Kat October 10, 2017 11:01 AM  

I've been looking for more wifely encouragement - this looks great.

And yes, women receive little to no training in harnessing and managing their emotions appropriately. There are days when I barely dare open my mouth because a simple "Hey, can you do X for me when it's convenient" comes out more like "Hey, fathead, help me out for once." And I say this as someone who truly loves her husband, desires to build him up, and will readily apologize for being bitchy. It's a constant effort to control my emotions and, by extension, my tongue. Hence my desperate desire to raise my daughters with more emotional discipline than my mother instilled in me. Dealing with this as a grown woman is a bitch (for everyone).

Blogger haus frau October 10, 2017 11:17 AM  

To maintain a decent marriage, a spouse has to recognize their own flaws for what they are and understand how they effect the other person. This is not a talent women generally have but society used to encourage women to have at least some degree of introspection.
Molyneux did a review of Disney's live action Beauty and the Beast and the most prominent idiocy of the movie is Belle's total lack of flaws as feminists would define them. Absolutely no self reflection. Entirely predictable but no less obnoxious. A perfect woman like Belle is a divorce rape waiting to happen.

Blogger dc.sunsets October 10, 2017 11:20 AM  

@37 Johnny, Hard to promote moral values when people can outrun their reputation.

This is true for the masses (AKA herd) who apparently require external social control. Few people seem able to figure out, just by looking at logical consequences, how they should behave. It can be done, however, by some. There are those of us who will actually return the wallet to its owner, complete with the cash inside, even if no one is looking.

I equate it to the difference between people who can break their compulsion toward vice (alcoholism, gambling, or any of our more modern fads) and those who cannot. If you can't honesty assess the damage your own actions do to your life, there's little hope of reasoning your way to Happiness Path.

Mises was onto something with praxeology. I think possible to begin with axiom and reason your way to how to live (and how to raise kids) so that you travel life on Happiness Path. It's not a social endeavor, however, in this cesspool of a society.

Anonymous Prionyx October 10, 2017 11:21 AM  

Sam the Man wrote:I wonder if that is why a lot of guys seem to like the eastern European women, because they seem to have held on to traditional catholic ideal more than the western European or southern European.

In the admittedly small sample size (5) of men I know who married Eastern European / Russian women, the women have a deeply ingrained sense of loyalty to their husbands and family.

Especially so if they weren't dropped into the caustic stew of Western feminism until after they were 30 or so. Much younger than that and they're still susceptible to subversion by the relentless whispering in their ears by the empowered grrrls.

Of course, that intense loyalty to husband and family is expected to be reciprocated equally, and if it isn't, well, all hell breaks loose. But at least they start out in the right frame of mind.

Blogger haus frau October 10, 2017 11:22 AM  

The pastor at my church recently did a series on Christian marriage. He very boldly addressed the problem of women denying sex within marriage, stating that the wife who withholds physical affection shares responsibility with the husband for the sins he commits as a result of her denial of sex. Adultery, porn, emotionally withdrawing from the marriage, he went down the list. You could see the audience perk up too.

Anonymous shushedout October 10, 2017 11:26 AM  

Both Dalrock (Christian blogger/pro-male) and TheRationalMale (Rollo) have done extensive commentary on this issue. The primary factors that have allowed women to indeed "HAVE it all" is that they have consistently, almost exclusively, awarded custody of the children in a divorce, and secondly, they almost ALWAYS get some form of "cash and prizes" as a result of divorce, be it alimony, the house, retirement, or of course, the hidden alimony of outrageous child support demands.

Child support has FAR exceeded the routine costs of raising a child as an equal partner (the non custodial parent paying their "share") and has essentially become a one-sided affair where other than the rent/mortgage a professional woman would pay for ANYHOW (as a single person), she received in some cases TENS of thousands of dollars a year, tax free mind you, from the father to "raise" anywhere from 1-3 kids on average, most of whom are in public schools all day. Child support has essentially become alimony--a form of extortion in which men are targeted to fund the lives of women who are, as they tell us, all growed up and strong and independent, etc.

THAT is why men are not marrying. They've seen what child support and divorce can and will do. Not to mention, contrary to what women think...strongly supported by the cultural narrative and judges and the entire divorce industry--guess what? men don't like losing their children either!

Blogger dc.sunsets October 10, 2017 11:30 AM  

@37 Reputation matters in the mirror. Mutual respect (the basis for all successful human relationships) begins with (honest) self-respect, which begins with self-discipline and self-control.

Instead of "buying" the better/faster/hotter (xxxxx) around the corner, cultivate in yourself a better person/spouse/parent/etc. As I've noted before, we're at peak "status-seeking" (via conspicuous consumption & faux-virtue signaling) and are destined to see a revival of seeking spiritual wealth which is all about each "me" cultivating a better "me." Those who fail on this will see their lineage culled mercilessly by Nature, because I think only those seeking spiritual wealth will have the will to survive and thrive the coming difficulties.

Blogger Johnny October 10, 2017 11:50 AM  

A relationship requires a mutual accommodation by both parties. Meanwhile we have a public sector that panders to one side or the other, apparently either for virtue signaling or votes. The latest example of this is the NFL's huff and puff over the national anthem. I take it to have a heavy race undercurrent. The the mainly white audience has been willing to overlook that the mainly black players are black, but the black players have not been willing to overlook that the majority of the audience is white. Naturally, as usual, the press takes sides.

I forget the name, but I read a book written by a lawyer who handles divorce cases. His commentary seemed evenhanded. He thought that when there was lots of money involved and good legal representation the settlements were usually evenhanded. When there was not a lot of money, men generally took the worst of it. I suppose what is going on is that women care more about this stuff than men do, thus there are votes to be had by favoring women. And just like race integration, it is the upper classes enforcing their peculiar notions of virtue on the lower classes without bothering to notice the outcomes.

(The one guy I know who married an Eastern European women got reamed out. To put it crassly, her marital value was greater than his and eventually she chose to market herself elsewhere.)

Anonymous Gen. Kong October 10, 2017 1:14 PM  

Hollywood says women can do anything and have anything no matter what they look like or what mess they’ve made of their lives. But Hollywood also uses CGI to make dead people talk so we know they’re a bunch of liars anyway.

Hollywood has been owned and operated by congenital liars like (((Weinstein))) for over a century. It lied then and it continues to lie today. Indeed, somewhere there's even a book whose title notes they always lie. Anyone with half-a-brain would know this to be true, so I suppose the more interesting question, which remains unanswered, would be Why do otherwise normal people choose to believe in lies rather than what their own five senses tell them? (((Hollywood))), its affiliates and allies have been essentially telling everyone that shit is gold and gold is shit for a century or more. This has been pointed out by numerous people over time, yet the lies are apparently what many prefer to listen to.

There is a great remark attributed to Solzhenitsyn, which would be an excellent axiom to remind oneself of every single day: Live not by lies

Blogger CM October 10, 2017 1:24 PM  

--I've been looking for more wifely encouragement - this looks great.

And yes, women receive little to no training in harnessing and managing their emotions appropriately. There are days when I barely dare open my mouth because a simple "Hey, can you do X for me when it's convenient" comes out more like "Hey, fathead, help me out for once." And I say this as someone who truly loves her husband, desires to build him up, and will readily apologize for being bitchy. It's a constant effort to control my emotions and, by extension, my tongue. Hence my desperate desire to raise my daughters with more emotional discipline than my mother instilled in me. Dealing with this as a grown woman is a bitch (for everyone).--

I am with you, Kat!

To the OP- I have joked with my husband before on why would I want a divorce? The dating market is hell!

OpenID doktorjeep October 10, 2017 1:32 PM  

I have a zoosk account that is stuck on my own age range and I'm almost 50.
Let me tell you, I did it out of boredom and to see if "it was true".
And it is. This endeavor has become entertainment rife with "you got to be f**king kidding me" shouted out loud at the browser.
I would not touch these women with a borrowed 10' pole.

We can say things of women from other parts of the world. But all I have for America is "fat and shameless". You don't see the big beer-bellied balding unemployed/poor slob guy trying his hand at getting a woman because he already knows the outcome. The female equivalent needs to get the memo.

In the end, of course, men would be better off without these harridans. Expect them to turn (again) to big daddy government and demand taxes on single men.

Anonymous AzDesertRat October 10, 2017 2:02 PM  

There is a lot of crazy out there in American Female Land. A distant family member of mine left her husband about a year ago and "married" a lesbian. She and her husband were married within two years of graduating high school, have two daughters together, and were married for a little over 14 years total.
He spent years working his ass off in a high physical demand blue collar job providing for his family while she spent EIGHT YEARS in college trying to "figure out what she wanted to be". If I recall correctly she changed majors at least 4 times, and each of those times was when she was at the halfway (or beyond) point in the programs. The entire time she was constantly bad mouthing her husband and demeaning his job because it wasn't respectable or flashy enough, even though he was pulling down good money, and paying for her college classes and maintaining their lifestyle.
To make her happy he started going to college to "get a degree and a 'real' job" (her words) but he was miserable because he wasn't/isn't the college type. There was nothing involving a degree that he found interesting enough to pursue.
Meanwhile, she began bitching about how he was gone all the time, between working and school, and that she was lonely and felt that she was stuck having to take care of their kids all by herself.
She started at a new job and within months she had, again her words, "fallen madly in love by accident" to a lesbian. Said lesbian admitted to me once (while under the influence) that she found joy in the fact that she was able to break up a hetero marriage, and considered the ex-husband to be a total cuck for not controlling his wife, and spending all his time trying to please her.

The other day he was at one of the big family get together's and I asked him how the dating scene was treating him (he is in his mid-30's). He laughed and said "I'm not even trying. They are either looking to get pregnant, or are looking for someone to help raise the kids they already have."

Anonymous Kat October 10, 2017 2:13 PM  

Baby fever is bad enough when you can jump your husband as soon as he walks in the door. I can't imagine how crazy these wall-shy carousel riders must be.

Blogger Johnny October 10, 2017 2:31 PM  

dc.sunsets wrote:@37 Johnny, Hard to promote moral values when people can outrun their reputation.

This is true for the masses (AKA herd) who apparently require external social control.


The book Coming Apart: The State of White America addresses this subject. The general theme is that the social changes since the 1960's have worked mainly to destabilize the lives of the lower classes. To quote Wikipedia: Murray goes on to provide evidence that religiosity, work ethic, industriousness, family, etc., have either remained strong or have weakened minimally in the New Upper Class, whereas these same attributes have either weakened substantially or have become almost nonexistent in the New Lower Class.

Blogger DonReynolds October 10, 2017 5:31 PM  

I am seldom shocked by anything I see in this country anymore. I do not even try to keep score, since every day brings a new low. But I admit to being surprised when I saw how 70 percent of young men today (20 - 34) are not married. This must be one of the most profound differences between young men today and when I was in that same age range.

But to be honest, it would seem to be rational behavior, given what this society and the Family Law Courts have done to ruin marriage for the rest of us.

In a fundamental way, marriage may have lost quite a bit of it's purpose. Since it is not what it used to be, then what IS it?

If it is not a partnership, not a friendship, not about sex, not about children, not about a home, or shared property, or even a family-owned business or farm of some sort....then I wonder what marriage is supposed to be anymore. If it has no purposes, then why on earth would any man enter into such an open-ended obligation with virtually no say about how it is operated and no vote on when it is ended?

Anonymous Matthew Morgan October 10, 2017 6:18 PM  

@64

It's apparently an excuse for women to get a sparkly piece of jewelry, an expensive white dress, an expensive party, a week-long vacation in the Bahamas, and all the pictures to go on Facebook.

Blogger The Overgrown Hobbit October 10, 2017 10:42 PM  

If you need encouragement, away from the social media point and shriek dogpiling older women have been quietly advising fractious younger women with this for over a decade now.

If it's getting out into the wider culture, in mass media, that's a really good sign. Men of the West: http://www.scifiwright.com/2017/10/last-crusade-heretics-and-heathens/

Blogger Roger G2 October 12, 2017 9:41 AM  

“Eat, pray, love lesbian cycle.”
Sides are hurting over here. Laughing.

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