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Thursday, January 07, 2016

How can I help?

That is the question we should be asking ourselves regularly, advises Mike Cernovich:
Luck rules our lives, although we can increase our odds of winning – of getting lucky – by taking more spins of the wheel. Thus you must stay busy.

Your life is the sum total of your activities and the people in your life. Be useful to other people. Find ways to meet market demands. Be good to your friends. When is the last time you emailed a friend to say, “How can I help you?”

People are doing poorly at being useful as they believe simply being around a person adds value to their lives. Yet many people are vampires.

Too many people are out for themselves, trying to extract as much value from others as they can.

That’s one way to live, but it doesn’t work for me.

I find ways to be useful to other people, and it works for me.

Instead of wondering why people don’t reach out to you or old friends fall away, why not stop working angles on people, being a manipulator, and simply saying, “Is there anything I can do for you?”
Too many of us practice a warped secular churchianity, where we congratulate ourselves for donating a modicum of money here and there to savages we don't know in lieu of helping our friends and allies.

But you're not a better person for helping the stranger and ignoring your neighbor. You're a worse person, you're a performance artist. As Jesus himself said, even the tax collectors love those who love them and even the pagans greet their own people.

Now what does it say about you if your own behavior doesn't even rise to their level?

Just as only the strong can turn the other cheek, only those who help their own first can help others.

This is not a criticism; the readers of Vox Popoli are well-known across the Internet for their strength of support. You not only support me, but you support my allies and you support each other. But it is a reminder, to me, if no one else, that instead of waiting for others to ask if they need our help, we should proactively go to our friends and ask if there is anything we can do.

In that vein, I know there are a number of people here who would very much like to attend the Dev Game course, but cannot afford to do so. Perhaps you lost your job. Perhaps your kids need braces. Perhaps you're a young man who probably shouldn't be reading here in the first place, but wants to get into game development.

So, in the interest of following Mike's lead, I'd like to offer seven free course passes to readers who would have signed up for Dev Game if they'd had the ability to do so. Write me an email today with DG in the subject and a one-paragraph description of what you'd like to do in the game industry; I will select the seven I believe will most benefit from the course and send them registration links.

And be sure you can actually attend on Saturdays before emailing me.

UPDATE: A donor, who wishes to remain anonymous, has made 10 additional seats available for those who cannot afford it. So, if you would like to utilize one of those seats, let me know.

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52 Comments:

Anonymous DaveD January 07, 2016 8:54 AM  

Very cool. See a need, meet a need.

Blogger The Rev January 07, 2016 8:58 AM  

Good show! Mike gives good advice.

Blogger Cataline Sergius January 07, 2016 9:11 AM  

That was something I learned. If you are feeling stressed as all hell, help someone whose is worse off than you.

It works miracles.

Which of course is the point.

Blogger 1337kestrel January 07, 2016 9:13 AM  

Always put your own mask on first.

Blogger Nate January 07, 2016 9:18 AM  

"Luck rules our lives, although we can increase our odds of winning "

See... Mike is clearly on our side and he's clearly effective. But he frequently says dumb things. Like this.

Life is not ruled by luck. Its ruled by your own damn decisions.

Blogger Christopher Yost January 07, 2016 9:19 AM  

Are the courses only for those seriously looking to get themselves into the field?

Anonymous ThirdMonkey January 07, 2016 9:24 AM  

This is the difference between being "nice" and being "kind." Nice is doing and saying things that make people feel good, but in reality is of no benefit. It is a word of Latin origin that literally means "not know", i.e. STUPID. For example, a friend's 20 yr old daughter has been raising money to be a missionary in South Africa for two years. Given the fact that South Africa is a terrible place for a 20 yr old white girl who has never even lived on her own, it would be "nice" of me to support her financially. Kind, however, is what Mike and Vox have just described and demonstrated: being useful to someone else. Giving a man a fish is nice. Teaching a man to fish is kind. Nice people get used and played the fool. Kind people are successful because they bring value to someone else.

Anonymous Hamburger Helper January 07, 2016 9:24 AM  

A corollary to this:

1. The First Rule Of Help- ASK IF IT'S NEEDED.

2. The Second Rule Of Help-
MAKE SURE YOU ACTUALLY HELP.

3. The Third Rule Of Help-KNOW WHEN TO STOP HELPING.

Anonymous ThirdMonkey January 07, 2016 9:29 AM  

@5 Nate

Providence + personal action = success.

Anonymous Kansas Wing Man January 07, 2016 9:42 AM  

A friend of mine went on a pilgrimage to Calcutta to work at Mother Theresa's Missions of Charity in the hope of visiting directly her. After two weeks of hard work, he was granted permission and during their conversation, he was asked, "Why did you come all this way? Do you not have the poor where you live?" It was then he realized that he was not seeking to benefit others but in reality only himself. He returned to the states and continued his efforts on a local level and was much happier.

Blogger Student in Blue January 07, 2016 9:42 AM  

@Nate
Life is not ruled by luck. Its ruled by your own damn decisions.

Mike's trying to say that most things in life are completely out of your control, particularly when it comes to genes, who your parents are, etc.

Of course, he's doing the secular thing and calling it "luck" and so it sounds kind of dumb.

Anonymous Rigel Kent January 07, 2016 9:42 AM  

@5 This is no more than hubris. Our decisions effect our lives, certainly. But rule them? Of course not. There are a myriad of things beyond our control. And even our decisions are limited by our knowledge.

Anyone that is old enough to have made more than a few decisions has had the experience of making a decision that seems good based upon the information he has at the time, only to have it go bad due to things he didn't know until it was too late.

That said, luck or random chance, whatever you want to call it, doesn't rule our lives either. But it certainly has an impact.

Blogger Bard January 07, 2016 9:50 AM  

Reach out to your friends more often. My very close friend just killed himself over Christmas. Retired from the army 30 nov. I just spoke with 2 weeks prior. Had no idea he was in such a dark place so maybe I should have been a little more perceptive.

Anonymous Kansas Wing Man January 07, 2016 9:50 AM  

Hoping to win the lottery is wishful thinking indeed, but actually buying a ticket could make it happen even though the chance of winning is extremely remote.

Working diligently, acquiring real assets, careful deliberation and helping others working towards success will pay better dividends.

BTW, I did by a PowerBall ticket because it was my turn to pay The Stupid Tax. I only buy a ticket when the payout exceeds $500,000,000 otherwise, I'm just wasting my money.

Anonymous JI January 07, 2016 9:59 AM  

" Perhaps you're a young man who probably shouldn't be reading here in the first place, but wants to get into game development."

What? I've been recommending this site to everyone I know, old and young, for years!

Blogger Markku January 07, 2016 10:27 AM  

I have to say that for a young man who is not yet mature in his Christianity and doesn't regularly receive good, strong, Biblical preaching on the foundational things, reading VP can lead to a distorted view of reality.

We dwell on the negative here, because almost nobody else does. Except on Christmas and Easter. It is important to understand that love and charity still ARE more important than all this. But love and charity has its preachers already, and for Vox to try that would be about as good an idea as putting a newly converted Emperor Palpatine on the pulpit.

Anonymous Takin' a Look January 07, 2016 10:37 AM  

This post by VD makes me laugh. I was reading the crab basket effect over at The RedPill Room. It's about how women will help other women....to death.

There's a great example of this in that most estrogen-poisoned of environments, the Disney tween drama.
Blame my Daughter and my grandmother for why I know this. Fuck you....

....
In particular the film Ice Princess, starring Michelle Trachtenburg (from Buffy) and Hayden Panetierre (from Heros) as rival figure skating students under the same Queen Bee coach (Kim Cattrall). Michelle's character is a brainiac nerdling who uses the power of physics to skate well, and (surprise!) has a talent for it. Hayden is the bratty daughter of the icy skating coach whose own Olympic dreams were dashed, and who is now living vicariously and viciously through her daughter's competitive hopes.

The coach decides Michelle's character is too much of a threat for her daughter's chances . . . but instead of actively sabotaging her, ala a regular villain, she instead . . . buys her new skates.

The coach "helps out" Michelle's character because it is, technically, "assistance": Michelle had been wearing crappy skates to a competition and couldn't afford new ones. So the coach "thoughtfully" buys a brand-new, expensive pair of skates for her. Michelle was thrilled . . . and then wrecked the competition because the skates were new, unbroken in, and sabotaged her performance. Her daughter later calls her on the unfairness of it -- as a novice skater, Michelle has no idea that skates need to be "broken in" before being used in a performance. She tries to compete, she shreds her feet and botches her routine, and blames herself for the failure . . . with the kind and caring assistance of her coach.


It might be best to limit helping outside of the workplace....and quilting bees/church socials.

Blogger VD January 07, 2016 10:44 AM  

Are the courses only for those seriously looking to get themselves into the field?

They are for those seriously considering the field.

Anonymous Susan January 07, 2016 10:57 AM  

This post is why I am no impressed by people who are adopting all the foreign babies. There are enough babies/tots in this country that need that kind of help, but I guess it isn't the same kind of PR ego boost for the new parent.

Shame on the state agencies who deliberately impede a couple adopting a child in this country too. States look at it as a loss of revenue instead of actually doing their job. Which is to get that child a decent home.

Money grubbing and performance artists are great labels for these kinds of people.

Blogger Markku January 07, 2016 11:05 AM  

This post is why I am no impressed by people who are adopting all the foreign babies. There are enough babies/tots in this country that need that kind of help

Are you sure? I have heard from sources I consider reliable that for any white baby, the queue of takers is ridiculously long. Usually hundreds, sometimes thousands.

Blogger VD January 07, 2016 11:11 AM  

Life is not ruled by luck. Its ruled by your own damn decisions.

I would say luck is at least as important as your own decisions. Luck usually determines what decisions are presented to you. Timing is absolutely vital and it is largely luck-dependent.

Blogger Carl Philipp January 07, 2016 11:17 AM  

When a commenter on this site mentioned "He who does not help his own, and especially his own family, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever," I looked it up

In context, it's even more beautiful.

1 Timothy 5:3-16 is about when the church should not provide welfare for widows.

Not only should we NOT assist them if there are others with a greater duty to do so, but also only if she is both (1) too old to remarry, and (2) she has consistently proven her character.

It even explains the reasons for this: so the church is not burdened with shiftless layabouts who fall away from the faith and use their church-sponsored leisure time for uncivic behavior.

I've been keeping an eye out for such things ever since to use as rhetorical punches. Exodus 23:3 and Leviticus 19:15 clearly explain how Social Justice is unBiblical, unethical, and unjust, for example.

Blogger Vi M January 07, 2016 11:28 AM  

What a nice thing to do. Good luck to all you game devs.

Blogger Rory Porth January 07, 2016 11:34 AM  

Vox

7.... 'interesting' number (biblically.....) good show....

#19 Susan:
"This post is why I am no impressed by people who are adopting all the foreign babies. There are enough babies/tots in this country that need that kind of help, but I guess it isn't the same kind of PR ego boost for the new parent."

yeah yeah yeah - unfortunately in America the adoption racket is either 'open' adoption, or the adopted child could be taken from you even after years of parenting... My wife and I chose *NOT* to be looking over our shoulder with american adoption.... And 2 of our 3 do not look like us at all.....

Blogger Desiderius January 07, 2016 11:50 AM  

"That is the question we should be asking ourselves"

Yes. Asking the others directly is a cop out. The bulk of the value added is the product of the reflection itself.

Anonymous KoranBurningFaggot January 07, 2016 11:53 AM  

This almost seems like Cernovich is asking for more vampires.

Life is not ruled by luck. Its ruled by your own damn decisions.

By working smarter and harder you get more lucky. I will always remember a under 5' tall woman that was almost as wide around who said whatever section I covered was always lucky. I told her that if she ate breakfast before she came into work instead of on the clock she could get an extra 1/2 hour of luck for the sections she covered. She was also a firm believer that women got paid less for the "same" job.

This post is why I am no impressed by people who are adopting all the foreign babies.

When I find a STR8 couple has foreign non Asian minority I ask "Why didn't you qualify to get an American kid, even gays can adopt an American black HIV+ crack baby?"

Blogger CM January 07, 2016 11:53 AM  

Are you sure? I have heard from sources I consider reliable that for any white baby, the queue of takers is ridiculously long. Usually hundreds, sometimes thousands.

Older children have the worse off lot in this country - abandoned disabled children, abused (with the attendant behavioral disorders). Any child over 2 or 3 has a difficult time being adopted.

However, we also have our bizarre little schizo system that separates families and makes nigh impossible to put them back together while claiming to do all in their power to keep families together... hence our incredibly beleaguered and corrupt DCS and Foster care systems.

These issues make adopting any child over 2 next to impossible.

Blogger Desiderius January 07, 2016 11:53 AM  

"I would say luck is at least as important as your own decisions. Luck usually determines what decisions are presented to you. Timing is absolutely vital and it is largely luck-dependent."

It's useful to have a map that matches the territory (i.e. an accurate picture of reality) but if one must err, better to err away from fatalism. Call it Providence.

Blogger Desiderius January 07, 2016 12:00 PM  

Markku,

"But love and charity has its preachers already"

Virtue-signaling is not love and charity. There is both a love and a charity in the truth that transcends the thin gruel currently being doled out from the pulpits of the West.

Blogger Desiderius January 07, 2016 12:02 PM  

"Providence + personal action = success."

Not as the world defines it, although it can't hurt.

Blogger Dave January 07, 2016 12:07 PM  

The Dark Lord does throw a few bones now and then. Good on you Vox.

Blogger Bluntobj Winz January 07, 2016 12:12 PM  

I think I will practice this idea this year with our neighbors. We farm, and I could see where we could reach out and do some good with food planning, classes, food itself, wood, etc.

Blogger newanubis January 07, 2016 12:25 PM  

This is decidedly terrific. I'd enjoy having a side link here such as 'ilk marketplace' wherein any product/service I needed could first be checkedhere...in similar fashion to the amazon portal. The idea of financially strengthening those who strengthen the union, and world at large, is surely the first place I care to see my dollars directed to.

Blogger VD January 07, 2016 12:39 PM  

If you're reading this, please note that an anonymous donor has made 10 more free seats available. So, if you're on the fence, you need not be.

Blogger Scott January 07, 2016 12:41 PM  

@cataline
but you're serving yourself! don't wait until you need stress relief! do it FOR the other guy!

Blogger arabic58 January 07, 2016 12:44 PM  

Guardian angels: Working tirelessly behind the scenes to save us from ourselves. [ http://www.jasonbachcartoons.com/store.html#!/Lesser-Known-Acts-of-Guardian-Angel-Protection/p/37143101/category=9675241 ]

Got this poster several years ago. I hang it on the wall in my living room.

Blogger pyrrhus January 07, 2016 2:00 PM  

@36 Awesome truth!

Blogger SciVo January 07, 2016 4:01 PM  

@ Desiderius:

I prefer "serendipity" in this context.

Anonymous VFM 4388 January 07, 2016 4:06 PM  

Not even slightly on the fence. I just won't know for sure whether I have Saturdays off until tonight, so my request will be at the last possible moment.

And now, a bit of unattributed poetry I found in a book in a host-family's house eons ago, and thought worthy of memorizing:


Oh, once in each man's life, it seems
Good luck knocks at his door.
And wit to seize the fleeting guest
Need never hunger more.

But though the loit'ring idler waits,
Good luck beside his fire,
The strong man storms at fortune's gates
And conquers his desire.

Blogger S1AL January 07, 2016 5:06 PM  

"I've been keeping an eye out for such things ever since to use as rhetorical punches. Exodus 23:3 and Leviticus 19:15 clearly explain how Social Justice is unBiblical, unethical, and unjust, for example."

It struck me as odd the other day when I was reading through my Bible and discovered that there are passages titled "Social Justice" - but these passages deal with legal systems, primarily punishment for crime perpetrated against individuals. From that perspective, "social justice" is simply a term for legal justice issued by mankind, rather than God's Divine Justice. And like every other modern perversion of Biblical ethos, the removal of the divine has rendered it a ludicrous mockery.

Anonymous MMX2010 January 07, 2016 6:18 PM  

Vox, how can I become a vile faceless minion?

Blogger SirHamster January 07, 2016 6:26 PM  

how can I become a vile faceless minion?

Email him with VFM as the subject.

Blogger VD January 07, 2016 7:01 PM  

Vox, how can I become a vile faceless minion?

1. Swear mindless obedience.
2. Email me.

Blogger Eclecticity January 07, 2016 8:42 PM  

Awesome gesture Vox! And the other donor, good on ya?

Blogger Eclecticity January 07, 2016 8:42 PM  

Awesome gesture Vox! And the other donor, good on ya?

Anonymous Toby Temple January 07, 2016 9:32 PM  

Life is not ruled by luck. Its ruled by your own damn decisions.

See.... Nate is the resident alpha boy and the bane of the aspergs. But even he can exhibit aspergs from time to time. Like this one.

Blogger Were-Puppy January 07, 2016 10:00 PM  

@8 Hamburger Helper
A corollary to this:

1. The First Rule Of Help- ASK IF IT'S NEEDED.
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I am so terrible at this.

Blogger Were-Puppy January 07, 2016 10:05 PM  

@11 Student in Blue

Mike's trying to say that most things in life are completely out of your control, particularly when it comes to genes, who your parents are, etc.

Of course, he's doing the secular thing and calling it "luck" and so it sounds kind of dumb.
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I took his statement as, the more things you attempt, you're upping your chances at more success. There might be more failures too, but whatever.

Blogger The Overgrown Hobbit January 08, 2016 12:42 AM  

#19. This post is why I am not impressed by people who are adopting all the foreign babies. There are enough babies/tots in this country that need that kind of help.

#26 Are you sure? I have heard from sources I consider reliable that for any white baby, the queue of takers is ridiculously long. Usually hundreds, sometimes thousands.

Markku is correct. In the U.S. at least, there is a huge adoption deficit. My husband and I went through the process, and even if you can work with an agency that doesn't think that adopting a kid with a different melanin content is oppressive racism, you are required to pledge that you'll raise the child in his or her "native" culture.

Since these people have the same idea about what constitutes native Black culture as does VD (but they fondly imagine its a virtue) that's not just no, but hell no.

We literally aged out of the program, waiting.

It's a culture of death that hates women and children.

Anonymous map January 08, 2016 11:30 AM  

The biggest problem with helping people is when someone who does the helping does not have an unclosed credibility/status gap with either the people he is trying to help or with the subject matter he is trying to undertake.

There is nothing people resent more than help from someone who seems like they can't help, even if the help is ultimately useful.

Want to help people? Build you status and credibility. People will then either welcome your help or seek to help you.

Anonymous Capt Lunchpail January 08, 2016 12:17 PM  

This made me think of Chesterton from his Job introduction:

For when once people have begun to believe that prosperity is the reward of virtue, their next calamity is obvious. If prosperity is regarded as the reward of virtue it will be regarded as the symptom of virtue. Men will leave off the heavy task of making good men successful. He will adopt the easier task of making out successful men good.

Anonymous Michael Maier January 08, 2016 12:44 PM  

Vox,
Is it too late to register?

My Saturdays are only semi-flexible in the immediate future. What time are the seminars? Will they be a fixed time every week? Will the videos be archived and available for watching afterwards for review if I miss the live broadcast?

And, finally, are there any free spots left? I didn't see any updates on the blog saying one way or the other and you're usually on top of things pretty well.

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